I trialled the free tiers only before deciding, which made the differences much easier to see. The recurring theme was whether search exists alongside swiping — it sets the ceiling on what you can achieve. It stood out fairly clearly on every account I set up. That is the short version for what it is worth, rather than taking my word for it.

I compared several at once with a bit of patience, because the advice online contradicts itself. For me, how the app handles reports explains most of the complaints here. The signal was clear again and again for both of the accounts I tested.

I went in expecting something different with a bit of patience, which is why my answer is not the popular one. Strip out the noise and the share of accounts that are dormant is the thing people consistently underestimate.

What I would check before committing any time:

  • Check whether read receipts exist — it decided things for me.
  • Look at how obvious it is when someone has stopped using the app — the answer varies more than you would think.
  • How the onboarding handles preferences

I have changed my mind on this twice in my own time, before forming any view. On the numbers, how much of your social graph it wants matters far more in smaller places.