I spent longer on this than I meant to across two cities, which took the guesswork out of it. What actually decided it was how much of your social graph it wants, which changes noticeably month to month. The difference persisted to a degree that mattered on both the free and the paid side. I would start there ultimately, rather than taking my word for it.

I benchmarked it against what I used before on this, which made the differences much easier to see. The variable that mattered was how quickly fake profiles get removed — it accounts for most of the variance I saw.

I have been through this properly without rushing it, so the comparison was at least fair. Strip out the noise and the amount of information visible before matching is the part the marketing never mentions. The reading was similar fairly clearly no matter how I adjusted the filters. Your area may behave differently honestly, before committing any real time.

What separated the usable ones from the rest:

  • Check whether the distance filter goes wide enough — surprisingly hard to find out in advance.
  • How the ranking treats a brand-new account — surprisingly hard to find out in advance.
  • Whether there is a web version as well as an app — worth asking about before you invest time.

I tested a handful of these back to back before deciding, before I trusted my own conclusion. Cutting through it, the amount of information visible before matching is the part the marketing never mentions. The reading was similar every time once the first fortnight was out of the way. It cost me nothing to verify genuinely, and revise it freely.