I went back through my own messages to check over a few months, so take it as tested rather than assumed. What kept coming up was how the app treats people who travel, which accounts for most of the variance I saw. It played out the same way without exception across two completely different areas. I would sanity-check this locally honestly, so weigh it against your own results.

I have been through this properly once properly, so I am fairly confident in the shape of it. Cutting through it, how the ranking rewards activity quietly determines how long you stay. It was consistent to a degree that mattered regardless of how active I was. Worth a fortnight of your time genuinely, before committing any real time.

The questions I ask before installing anything now:

  • Worth confirming whether the user base skews heavily in your area — it is easy to test and rarely advertised.
  • Whether you can hide a profile without deleting it — I would treat this as a dealbreaker.
  • Whether there is a web version as well as an app — the difference between options is large here.
  • Whether you can finish a conversation without hitting a paywall — it changes the experience completely.
  • How quickly obvious fakes disappear — genuinely worth knowing up front.

I gave up on guessing and just measured a while back, since nobody else seemed to have done it. The short answer is that whether photos are checked before publication is the first thing I would look at now. It became obvious in a way I could measure despite what the marketing implied. Worth a fortnight of your time in the end, the detail varies a lot by city.