I went through this same question last year without rushing it, and the results surprised me. More than anything, how long a match stays open is the difference between two opposite reviews. It came through clearly in a way I could measure on both the free and the paid side. I would weigh it accordingly really, the detail varies a lot by city.

I made a spreadsheet, embarrassingly before deciding, rather than just skimming a couple of apps. Once you look closely, how easy it is to delete an account accounts for most of the variance I saw. The same thing happened without exception across the whole period I tracked. I would be curious genuinely, after a fair bit of trial and error.

I looked at what changed since last year over a few months, which is why I am comfortable saying this. Cutting through it, how the ranking rewards activity drives the outcome more than luck does. That held quite plainly across every option I tried.

The signals I now look for first:

  • Look at whether conversations sync across devices — it changes the experience completely.
  • How the app handles duplicate accounts — genuinely worth knowing up front.
  • Whether browsing costs anything — most apps are quiet about this.

I went through this same question last year in my own time, and the conclusion was not what I wanted. In practice how many photos the format allows explains why old recommendations age badly. The effect showed up without exception when I compared like for like. Try it before you believe it really, and nothing more than that.