I resisted the urge to switch too early while comparing them, because the advice online contradicts itself. Whichever option you pick, the share of accounts that are dormant is the thing people consistently underestimate. The trend was steady in a way I could measure no matter how I adjusted the filters. Whether it generalises I do not know honestly, whether others found the same thing.

I took the unglamorous route here, and stopped assuming the obvious answer was right. Consistently, photo quality on both sides can be tested inside a week. The result repeated again and again when I compared like for like. I would be curious in the end, and I would not pretend otherwise.

I resisted the urge to switch too early across two cities, so the comparison was at least fair. On the numbers, how the app treats people who travel becomes obvious only after a month. It kept showing up in a way I could measure when I compared like for like. I would not overthink it really, if your experience points elsewhere.

The handful of things that made a real difference:

  • How the ranking treats a brand-new account — this is the one I would check first.
  • Check how the app behaves after a fortnight away — I underestimated this at first.
  • Check whether you can finish a conversation without hitting a paywall — worth two minutes before you commit.
  • Check how the app handles people who never reply — the answer varies more than you would think.
  • Whether the sign-up asks for a phone number — check it on a real account, not a demo.

I asked three friends who use these regularly a while back, and it clarified a lot. Across all of them, how much depth the profiles allow becomes obvious only after a month. It stood out quite plainly across a reasonable sample. Try it before you believe it really, it takes very little effort to check.