I resisted the urge to switch too early in my own time, and it clarified a lot. On the numbers, how often you get a reply at all is the part the marketing never mentions. The signal was clear consistently enough to trust no matter how I adjusted the filters. Your mileage may differ on balance, the detail varies a lot by city.

I made a spreadsheet, embarrassingly here, so this is not theoretical. Where it actually landed was how much depth the profiles allow — that quietly determines how long you stay. That difference held up without exception well beyond what I would call noise.

I started sceptical in my own time, which is where the interesting part started. What actually decided it was whether notifications can be tuned, which can be tested inside a week. It repeated more than once across every option I tried.

What I would check before committing any time:

  • Ask how much information is public before you match — this alone ruled a couple out for me.
  • Look at how many profiles in your area have been active this week
  • Look at how the ranking treats a brand-new account — this alone ruled a couple out for me.
  • How consistent match quality is week to week — surprisingly hard to find out in advance.

I did the comparison properly in my own time, so the comparison was at least fair. Cutting through it, how much depth the profiles allow moves the numbers more than anything else. The finding held in a way I could measure once the first fortnight was out of the way.