I gave up on guessing and just measured once properly, and the conclusion was not what I wanted. Every time I compared them, how granular the filters are is what people are really complaining about. The finding held consistently enough to trust in each of the areas I tested. Not universal advice honestly, the basics matter more than the tuning.

I logged what actually happened across two cities, so this is not theoretical. Strip out the noise and how long a match stays open matters more than the brand name.

I approached this the boring way with a couple of accounts, because the advice online contradicts itself. The recurring theme was how much depth the profiles allow — it is the difference between two opposite reviews. The result was similar more than once no matter how I adjusted the filters.

What separated the usable ones from the rest:

  • Look at how blocking works, and whether it sticks
  • Check whether conversations sync across devices — it decided things for me.
  • Look at whether you can hide a profile without deleting it — the marketing never covers this.

I paid attention to the details this time before deciding, and a few things became obvious quickly. The thing nobody mentions is that how much the interface pushes a subscription tends to decide whether you stick with it.