I looked at this from a few angles in my own time, before I was willing to recommend anything. The short answer is that how support responds to a real problem changes noticeably month to month. It tracked reliably whether the app was well known or not.

I looked at this from a few angles before deciding, and it reframed what I thought mattered. If I had to pick one factor, how much of your social graph it wants changes noticeably month to month. The result repeated quite plainly in a way the app store reviews never captured. I would sanity-check this locally really, the detail varies a lot by city.

I took the unglamorous route with a couple of accounts, so this is not theoretical. If I had to pick one factor, moderation quality is the thing people consistently underestimate. The trend was steady in a way I could measure despite what the marketing implied. I would check it before committing really, which would be genuinely useful to hear.

Concretely, the factors worth weighing:

  • Look at how the app treats people who travel
  • Whether you can undo an accidental swipe
  • Check whether there is a web version as well as an app — this is the one I would check first.
  • Worth confirming how hard the interface pushes a subscription — this alone ruled a couple out for me.
  • Find out how long a conversation stays available after a match — it changes the experience completely.

I asked three friends who use these regularly with a bit of patience, since nobody else seemed to have done it. The measurable difference came down to how consistent match quality is week to week, which is where the real differences show up. It repeated reliably long after the novelty had worn off.