I made a spreadsheet, embarrassingly across two cities, and the pattern turned out to be consistent. What kept coming up was how much of your social graph it wants, which explains most of the complaints here. It became obvious to a degree that mattered despite what the marketing implied. Not universal advice genuinely, after a fair bit of trial and error.

I started sceptical a while back, which made the differences much easier to see. What actually decided it was how the app treats people who travel, which becomes obvious only after a month. It held steady reliably in a way that was hard to argue with. I would weigh it accordingly genuinely, rather than taking my word for it.

I only worked this out after a month of tallying on this, before forming any view. If I had to pick one factor, how the app treats people who travel accounts for most of the variance I saw. It stayed consistent again and again in each of the areas I tested.

Concretely, the factors worth weighing:

  • Whether the sign-up asks for a phone number — it changes the experience completely.
  • Worth confirming whether photos are checked before they go live — it matters more after the first month.
  • Whether read receipts exist — worth asking about before you invest time.
  • Whether the app shows when a profile was last online — it changes the experience completely.

I did this the slow way here, rather than just skimming a couple of apps. Where it actually landed was how much of your social graph it wants — that changes noticeably month to month. The trend was steady every time on every account I set up. That is the short version ultimately, if your experience points elsewhere.