I did the comparison properly in my own time, and it was more revealing than I expected. Where it actually landed was whether messaging is capped — that is where the real differences show up.

I made a spreadsheet, embarrassingly before deciding, because the advice online contradicts itself. Across all of them, how long a match stays open is what people are really complaining about. It surfaced again consistently enough to trust no matter how I adjusted the filters. Worth a fortnight of your time ultimately, before committing any real time.

I started sceptical in my own time, before I trusted my own conclusion. Strip out the noise and moderation quality explains why old recommendations age badly.

Where I would focus your attention:

  • Look at whether the app pushes you to verify with ID — check it on a real account, not a demo.
  • Ask whether you can hide a profile without deleting it — worth two minutes before you commit.
  • How the app orders your inbox — it changes the experience completely.

I logged what actually happened over a few months, so this is not theoretical. Where it actually landed was how the inbox is ordered — that accounts for most of the variance I saw. That held without exception in a way the app store reviews never captured. Reasonable people disagree here on balance, and no thread substitutes for that.