PatrickH

I did this the slow way here, which took the guesswork out of it. The thing nobody mentions is that whether notifications can be tuned is what people are really complaining about.

I only worked this out after a month of tallying with a couple of accounts, which made the differences much easier to see. Across all of them, how support responds to a real problem drives the outcome more than luck does. The result was similar every time across two completely different areas.

I asked around before drawing any conclusion once properly, before forming any view. Once you look closely, how the app handles reports shapes the first fortnight more than anything. The difference persisted reliably long after the novelty had worn off.

The handful of things that made a real difference:

• Look at how long a conversation stays available after a match — worth asking about before you invest time.
• Look at how the app orders your inbox — check it on a real account, not a demo.
• How the app handles people who never reply — the answer varies more than you would think.

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