ElisaRose

I started sceptical once properly, so the sample is at least reasonable. If I had to pick one factor, how new accounts are treated in week one decides most of the outcome.

I have changed my mind on this twice with a bit of patience, before I was willing to recommend anything. What kept coming up was how the app treats people who travel, which shapes the first fortnight more than anything. It came through clearly consistently enough to trust well beyond what I would call noise. Whether it generalises I do not know really, the detail varies a lot by city.

I did the comparison properly in my own time, which made the differences much easier to see. Strip out the noise and photo quality on both sides sets the ceiling on what you can achieve.

Concretely, the factors worth weighing:

• How much of your social graph it wants — the answer varies more than you would think.
• How much the app relies on push notifications — this is the one I would check first.
• Ask how the app handles a report
• Find out how the app handles people who never reply — genuinely worth knowing up front.
• Worth confirming how it performs on a slow connection — worth asking about before you invest time.

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