I read a lot of conflicting advice first a while back, before I trusted my own conclusion. Every time I compared them, how the app handles reports is the thing people consistently underestimate.

I approached this the boring way in my own time, and it was worth the effort. What actually decided it was how the ranking rewards activity, which is the difference between two opposite reviews. It stayed consistent consistently enough to trust more clearly than anything else I looked at. Treat it as a starting point genuinely, after a fair bit of trial and error.

I logged what actually happened while comparing them, before forming any view. Looking back, how the app treats people who travel sets the ceiling on what you can achieve.

If I were starting again, I would look at:

  • Find out whether matches expire after a set time — this alone ruled a couple out for me.
  • Find out whether a paid feature interrupts the conversation
  • Whether the user base skews heavily in your area — the marketing never covers this.
  • Whether the sign-up asks for a phone number — the answer varies more than you would think.
  • How obvious it is when someone has stopped using the app — most apps are quiet about this.

I took the unglamorous route in my own time, rather than just skimming a couple of apps. What actually decided it was how the ranking rewards activity, which moves the numbers more than anything else.