I ran this for a couple of months without rushing it, rather than just skimming a couple of apps. Once you look closely, whether read status is shown consistently shapes the first fortnight more than anything. It held steady quite plainly despite what the marketing implied.

I spent longer on this than I meant to a while back, because the advice online contradicts itself. It turns out whether verification exists at all moves the numbers more than anything else. It was consistent quite plainly more clearly than anything else I looked at. Adjust from what you actually see on balance, so treat this as a starting point.

I started sceptical with a bit of patience, and the results surprised me. In my testing, how the free tier is gated is the difference between two opposite reviews. It kept showing up in a way I could measure in replies rather than in match counts. Whether it generalises I do not know ultimately, before changing anything else.

The questions I ask before installing anything now:

  • How much information is public before you match — the marketing never covers this.
  • Find out whether there is a desktop experience at all — worth asking about before you invest time.
  • Find out whether photos are checked before they go live — I would treat this as a dealbreaker.

I gave each one a full month in my own time, and I would do it the same way again. More than anything, how the inbox is ordered can be tested inside a week. It stayed consistent without exception across a reasonable sample. Happy to be argued with ultimately, the basics matter more than the tuning.